korvette1977
Well-Known Member
Is her Name Jeanine ...? Sounds like my 1st wife ...
Bro speaking from a position of being married this is not a bump in the road. This is the crater the size of a geo prizm. No wife...no self respecting wife would ever do this to her husband. Most wives want and look forward to waking up to that face every single day. Having a family with this person, looking forward to all the anniversaries, birthday parties and graduations. My wife is my best friend. How could your best friend put you in a position like that? If your boy did that to you you'd write him off. Now look at it from his perspective. Shes more than a boy. She's a lover, friend, confidant, support system, etc...the list goes on and on. If a woman...especially your wife puts you in this position..ever. You leave...you hear me? Cause the woman doesn't love you. She doesn't even love herself if she'd give up her marriage because her husband tokes a couple g's a week.
No ones life remains stagnant, people change continually, so is change justifacation for threats? Now if your smoking resulted in nonwork, not paying bills, ignoring the fam, then yes, she might have a pint.I don't agree with her threatening to call the police...but, I do see her point. When you married her you were not a smoker. She didn't sign up to marry a stoner, and you were not a stoner when you said your vows. She has every right to ask you not to smoke, imo. That is far as it should go though, if you say no then she should divorce you. She might be telling you she is calling the police in hopes of scaring you out of what your doing. She is probably desperate to get you to stop. Do you really think she will follow through with her threats?
that.......is.........fukked...........up. If i was married, and my wife came home with blood on her hands---i'd help her ditch the body and ask questions later.My wife told me she will call the police to "turn me in" if she ever sees weed in my possession or in our house (or even thinks I'm doing it). I didn't smoke when we got married. Now I do. And she hates it. I don't even do it except for 1 to 3 times a week, on average. That doesn't matter to her though.
I thought maybe we could make this work, but at this point, I don't see how. The way I see it, a wife who is willing to have her husband put in a jail and get a potentially career ruining criminal record over a plant God made is not a wife in the true meaning of the word.
I told her I'd stop doing it. Yes, I lied to her. Yes, lying is wrong. But the way I see it, I'm allowed to lie to anyone who is threatening to harm me. So, in the next week or so I plan on renting an apartment somewhere without telling her where it is or about it at all. Then I'm going to come home early one day while she is still at work, and I'm going to move all my shit out of our house and into the apt. If I can't keep my stash in my own home, then I'm not going to keep my belongings or myself there any longer either.
I guess if things don't change I'll be filing for a divorce soon. Hell, I'm considering doing so even if she "changes her mind" when she sees that I mean business. I don't know that I can ever trust someone who has threatened me like that.
She is out of line, I am not disputing that. I am saying she has a point, even though she is reacting to it in a childish manner. I also think there is a possibility that she might be just ranting and not meaning what she is saying.No ones life remains stagnant, people change continually, so is change justifacation for threats? Now if your smoking resulted in nonwork, not paying bills, ignoring the fam, then yes, she might have a pint.
Would it be fair for him to tell her that if she kept doing something new, he'd call the cops. because he didn't like it? Not hardly..She's way out of line.
Only he truly knows whether or not she is really threatening him or just ranting because she is pissed. I don't think a rant would justify a divorce...but only he knows what her intents are.Any time The threat of LEO is used, specially over a bit of kine, then what's next? It appears to be a case of "my way, or the highway". i can see her not wanting it in the house, or around her, but to demand compliance or LEO will be called..over the top..
I've been in this situation , not with kine, but it was change this,,then this,,until I determined that enough was enough and that A) I didn't do anything wrong
B) that no matter what I did, there would always be"just one more thing"
We don't know if there were any negotiations or not, but, as posted, it was "my rules PERIOD..Not a good space to be in..
Only he truly knows whether or not she is really threatening him or just ranting because she is pissed. I don't think a rant would justify a divorce...but only he knows what her intents are.