my friend, once you realize this one thing... nothing can make you sad or depressed, but its hard... and takes time to understand this. but once you do to do the fullest extent, trust me...nothing will ever bring you down to the point of wanting to end your life again.
this is part of the letter i wrote myself a long time ago..
what i am in others views is insignificant, what is significant is what i am in my own view. but i have found the deep dark secret of the human condition. people have picked up the habit of seeing themselves through other peoples eyes, and they have forgotten that there is a direct and immediate way to see themselves. to see within, is the only real way to see... because it is not indeirect.
so firstly, people create false images of themselves and where masks to decieve others...
secondly, they then base their opinion of themselves on how others see them...
not only does the mass majority of the people on the planet do this to themselves, society actually encourages it!!
people have forgotten how important it is to know yourself as you are, what you are, because only after this has been done, can any steps be taken in some authentic direction of self realization. this is what im trying to do. i am trying to uncover and know myself, for there to be nothing in me that remains unknown to me, for there not to be a single corner in me that remains dark and uninspected. if i can become familiar with all of my inner rooms, that same familiarity turns into self-conquest. this self-conquest is the path i have chosen.
it is a sad thing to realize this, and to wake up... to see how the rest of the world plays this little game of pretending to be people they are not, just because they are afraid of people might think. It is because once you start to become concious about every single decision, or thought that you do or have... you then become responsable for them. People don’t want that responsibility..
when people figure this out, they cant go on living the lives they did before, it is sad and hard at first... but time will heal the wounds, and you will become stronger than ever.
and ive figured out, people arent really happy bro... they are pretending to be. thats why its so hard for most people to be alone, because when your alone for long enough, you are forced to think about many things you wouldnt normally think about whilst in the company of others. For example, asking yourself if your really happy lol.
as happy as everyone is pretending to be, i just know that they can be happier...that you can be happier within yourlself....just as i can, and im trying too. we are all trying in our different ways.
its just that so many people get happiness and joy confused. happiness comes from being at peace within yourself and everything you do. joy, joy comes from things affecting you on the outside...
joy is temporary, it can be given and taken away at any given moment...where as happiness?
happiness comes from within, therefor...it is eternal.
my friend, you will be happy when you want to be happy. you will be happy when you become true to yourself, true to your inner being. true to your concious, become awake... observe everything you do, and consistantly make decisions about your life every moment of every day to make yourself... a better part of who you really are.
if you do things this way my friend, you might not have much in materialistic terms...but that will matter not. once you find out who you really are, things of that nature just kind of lose their value... and you might find that happiness, it has been in you all the while.
good luck on your journy my friend, if theres any advice i can give you... dont listen to society, dont go along with things just because everyone else is doing it.
fallow your heart.