Relationship advice needed

trueweedsmoker said:

So I would put her out and hook back up 4 or 5 days later and tell her not to do it again......she just kept messing up doing it again and again....now she doesnt do it anymore....shes in by 10 oclock now. a year ago i caught her sneaking texting her daughters father from her daughters phone asking where a party was at and that she was gonna step out. and i put her out for 2 weeks before I let her back home. My problem is she is best friends with 4 of my cousins that I barely even know. She grew up with them on the other side of town. The problem is, is that she wont let me get close to any of her family or friends. Everytime we argue she would go and tell them a whole lot of things that I said. I asked her why would You do that because if you want to marry me imma have to get close to your circle, or at least be civil with. But calling them telling them unneccessary stuff is un called for. Almost like she purposely want them to hate me. She never bring me around her family...She dont even deal with her family and they known me since childhood. She bring her friends around to say hi and then leave. 2 weeks ago I kicked her out for a week for not waking me up telling me she was leaving. I woke up not knowing if she was dead or not and it pissed me off. It seems like every 3 months she F. up.....What you think.

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Singlemalt said:

Sell her and the kid to the Nigerians; watch it they are sharpies so get cash in hand only; no trading bank account numbers. Then move to a new part of the country.

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Singlemalt said:

Sell her and the kid to the Nigerians; watch it they are sharpies so get cash in hand only; no trading bank account numbers. Then move to a new part of the country.

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trueweedsmoker said:

Ive known this girl since we were children, but started dating her again for the last 3 years. My problem was she was living with me and she would stay out to 3 oclock when she did hang with her friends, which was about every 3 months. So I would put her out and hook back up 4 or 5 days later and tell her not to do it again......she just kept messing up doing it again and again....now she doesnt do it anymore....shes in by 10 oclock now. a year ago i caught her sneaking texting her daughters father from her daughters phone asking where a party was at and that she was gonna step out. and i put her out for 2 weeks before I let her back home. My problem is she is best friends with 4 of my cousins that I barely even know. She grew up with them on the other side of town. The problem is, is that she wont let me get close to any of her family or friends. Everytime we argue she would go and tell them a whole lot of things that I said. I asked her why would You do that because if you want to marry me imma have to get close to your circle, or at least be civil with. But calling them telling them unneccessary stuff is un called for. Almost like she purposely want them to hate me. She never bring me around her family...She dont even deal with her family and they known me since childhood. She bring her friends around to say hi and then leave. 2 weeks ago I kicked her out for a week for not waking me up telling me she was leaving. I woke up not knowing if she was dead or not and it pissed me off. It seems like every 3 months she F. up.....What you think.

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burrheadd said:

Does she at least let you fuck her in the ass

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trueweedsmoker said:

Ive known this girl since we were children, but started dating her again for the last 3 years. My problem was she was living with me and she would stay out to 3 oclock when she did hang with her friends, which was about every 3 months. So I would put her out and hook back up 4 or 5 days later and tell her not to do it again......she just kept messing up doing it again and again....now she doesnt do it anymore....shes in by 10 oclock now. a year ago i caught her sneaking texting her daughters father from her daughters phone asking where a party was at and that she was gonna step out. and i put her out for 2 weeks before I let her back home. My problem is she is best friends with 4 of my cousins that I barely even know. She grew up with them on the other side of town. The problem is, is that she wont let me get close to any of her family or friends. Everytime we argue she would go and tell them a whole lot of things that I said. I asked her why would You do that because if you want to marry me imma have to get close to your circle, or at least be civil with. But calling them telling them unneccessary stuff is un called for. Almost like she purposely want them to hate me. She never bring me around her family...She dont even deal with her family and they known me since childhood. She bring her friends around to say hi and then leave. 2 weeks ago I kicked her out for a week for not waking me up telling me she was leaving. I woke up not knowing if she was dead or not and it pissed me off. It seems like every 3 months she F. up.....What you think.

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mr sunshine said:

First of all, how fine are your cousins? Your girlfriend too, im going to need pictures of all 5.

Second of all, dont say anything, if you're going to act like a little bitch when people find out.



Im concerned about your girls safety, you seem like a dangerous little man with low self esteem.

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Gary Goodson said:

I think the best way to get back at her is to suck her baby daddy's dick! That's the only thing that will help. Then you can drop her ass and walk away with your head held high.
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trueweedsmoker said:

Ive known this girl since we were children, but started dating her again for the last 3 years. My problem was she was living with me and she would stay out to 3 oclock when she did hang with her friends, which was about every 3 months. So I would put her out and hook back up 4 or 5 days later and tell her not to do it again......she just kept messing up doing it again and again....now she doesnt do it anymore....shes in by 10 oclock now. a year ago i caught her sneaking texting her daughters father from her daughters phone asking where a party was at and that she was gonna step out. and i put her out for 2 weeks before I let her back home. My problem is she is best friends with 4 of my cousins that I barely even know. She grew up with them on the other side of town. The problem is, is that she wont let me get close to any of her family or friends. Everytime we argue she would go and tell them a whole lot of things that I said. I asked her why would You do that because if you want to marry me imma have to get close to your circle, or at least be civil with. But calling them telling them unneccessary stuff is un called for. Almost like she purposely want them to hate me. She never bring me around her family...She dont even deal with her family and they known me since childhood. She bring her friends around to say hi and then leave. 2 weeks ago I kicked her out for a week for not waking me up telling me she was leaving. I woke up not knowing if she was dead or not and it pissed me off. It seems like every 3 months she F. up.....What you think.

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greasemonkeymann said:

ok, I love ya man, but that just aint gonna work
The parts I highlighted got my eyebrows raised a lil.
from your words you seema lil hmm... whats the way to say it.. a lil controlling..
that will create a conflict regardless, a relationship doesn't work like that (well, not a healthy one anyhow)
If she looks at you like an "authority figure", it's bound to create resentment.. which is the fertile soil for allll sorts of funky-shit to grow in..

I ain't throwing shade at you, I love women, and I can't get enough of the craziness, and that, in turn, exposes me to a LOT of weird unhealthy relationships, which lets face it, fuck-up and mistakes teach you WAY better than success does..
Plus.. my woman is bipolar, so that makes me somewhat of an expert on unhealthy relationships..

BUT.

pardon the candor, women are great for all sorts of fun activities that don't involve emotional investment though..
that I know to be very true.


In my experience it's best to "match" the girls interest..
if she treats you like a "fun-time"?
then return that, conversely if she is digging you and in a nice serious way?
then return that..
the problem is when it gets lopsided..
then its obvious to everyone involved, and that power in a relationship creates issues.

Course all this advice is based on my own experiences so take it for what its worth..

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