Successful people and suicide

I have a woman who I've done service work for over the last two years. Her husband and her have been remodeling their home since I have known her. I hadn't talked to her in about 6 montsh She called me up the other day and needed some assistance with her security cameras and she informed me that her husband has passed.

Since she only appeared to be in her early forties I was shocked that he died. I did some research online and I found out that her husband was a well respected M.D. in the area. There was nothing anywhere about the cause of death but I found a few blog posts saying he was not murdered as some people thought. I think that indicates a suicide.

My question is, what could motivate someone who had money, success, and a pretty wife to kill themselves? The next day I saw a guy sleeping next to a dumpster and I was wondering why he hasn't killed himself but a prominent doctor did. Not that I think the homeless guy should kill himself. It was just an example.

Some people cant handle life and what it throws at them...i hear of people killing themselves but most of the time those people are suffering from an illness thats about to painfully take their lives...

Yeah, truth of it is... people with serious problems, it tends to not matter what's on the outside. It's all about their mind and the degree to which it inhibits their outward appreciation and general love for all things.

just because you have money and what looks like success from the outside, doesn't mean you don't have your own demons, and or could possibly even have a mental illness..
there's a reason why they always say money doesn't buy happiness.. when you've got money like that, usually your problems are much larger then having to worry about what you may want for dinner that day.
the guy could have suffered from depression for years and years.. even successful people aren't immune from life's problems ime.. mo money, mo problems is usually the way it does..

Very hard to know anothers headspace. very hard.
Knew a guy who topped himself over ten years ago. i was the last person to see him alive (that was friend or family). he jumped off a bridge the next morning. not painless. paramedics i spoke with (i had to know, don't ask) told me, very reluctantly, that he lived for about 40 mins. they gave him painmeds. he suffered a great deal i imagine.

Those who loved him suffered tremendously especially the family.
he was very successful. had 2 degrees. had a professional designation that very few can get. that profession tends to produce many 50 year old millionaires
no one saw it coming. never, ever spoke about it to me or anyone else (that i know of) except that he made a suicide joke when we had coffee the night before he took his life. i did not see it for what it was. he was a distant but very likeable guy
i've had at least 3 friends do this and not once did i see it coming.
people hide their pain very well
i look back and realize he had some very tough times in the last ten years of his life.
i read an article today about pain perception having a possible connection to genetics. this needs further study. it may, one day, explain suicides running in families. it may not
i urge anyone to get help. please
i, personally, would 'narc' out anyone who told me they wanted to off themselves but would not look me in the eye and tell me they will get help. that is me. been there. done it. will not sit around and do nothing. will not go through the guilt and anger again. i can't do it. anyone who has had to look a parent, uncle, sister. etc in the eye and offer them your most sincere condolences for their pain would understand where i am coming from
no i cannot save the world but yes i can take care of my patch
the guilt i have suffered through,lost sleep, bad dreams; i would not wish on anyone
i lost over a dozen friends/co-workers over 10 years. suicides, od's, accidents (dwi), etc.
pretty brutal shit
i rarely discuss this but feel very strongly that when this issue comes up, i must say my piece or i'm a coward

god bless all here

Realizing their souls been sold out and that theyve been contributing towards 'evil'.

wow. powerful thread here.

ikr?

poplars said:

wow. powerful thread here.

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hope it benefits someone
that is my motive
i actually find it easier, for myself, never to discuss. i worry i will upset someone. not big on that
'pops', didn't mean to bum anyone out
i hope you appreciate my motives:
i do care. i do wish to help. i know a bit.
i am a funny guy, or try, and feel this is very tragic. especially for family and friends

fyi: for all, kids and animals will definitely lift the spirits as will a good laugh with good friends
god bless all

KLITE said:

Realizing their souls been sold out and that theyve been contributing towards 'evil'.

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I'm not sure i follow you klite. would you explain/share your thoughts please

iconoclast said:

I have a woman who I've done service work for over the last two years. Her husband and her have been remodeling their home since I have known her. I hadn't talked to her in about 6 montsh She called me up the other day and needed some assistance with her security cameras and she informed me that her husband has passed.

Since she only appeared to be in her early forties I was shocked that he died. I did some research online and I found out that her husband was a well respected M.D. in the area. There was nothing anywhere about the cause of death but I found a few blog posts saying he was not murdered as some people thought. I think that indicates a suicide.

My question is, what could motivate someone who had money, success, and a pretty wife to kill themselves? The next day I saw a guy sleeping next to a dumpster and I was wondering why he hasn't killed himself but a prominent doctor did. Not that I think the homeless guy should kill himself. It was just an example.

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Money and success dont make an unhappy person happy.

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kmog33 said:

Money and success dont make an unhappy person happy.

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but money can buy you a Jet Ski and just try to be unhappy on a jet ski, I dare you.

Commander Strax said:

but money can buy you a Jet Ski and just try to be unhappy on a jet ski, I dare you.

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I don't feel bad / sad for people who take their own life. I've been in bad places and never considered it. My dad would have loved to take a life so he could see his kids, grandchildren grow up.

People who commit suicide are selfish and care about no one but themselves.

Money could buy me happiness that's for damn sure. Shit, my wife sending me daily boobie pics makes me happy.

CannaCole said:

I don't feel bad / sad for people who take their own life. I've been in bad places and never considered it. My dad would have loved to take a life so he could see his kids, grandchildren grow up.

People who commit suicide are selfish and care about no one but themselves.

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Even those who are in palliative care/have a terminal disease? My grandfather had to suffer through 3 or 4 months of being bed ridden and constantly in pain until he passed away.

Sometimes it isn't as straight forward as it seems. It's not black and white.

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If it something that is discussed with immediate family then that's a different story.

More money,
More problems.
Bring on the problems!

You never know whats going on inside. You can't judge how happy they are by how they appear