Wasn't it always the case that no means no?
Generally I was always taught that if there's any sort of ambiguity it's probably a no.
And if she can't respond it's definitely no, lol.
The thing I don't like about the recent "revelations" is it seems even trying to "chat up" a woman can be considered sexual assault. Sure, if she says to get lost then take the hint and beyond that it's harassment but how do people date nowadays?
"I was wondering if you would consent to me holding your hand"...? Is romance actually finally dead?
The problem for me is this:
In all the relationships I was ever involved in, SOMEBODY made the first move. In the interest of full disclosure, most of the time it was NOT me.
But now we're on a roll where women are CLAIMING sexual harassment and assault when absolutely no contact ever took place. For instance, one woman said of Weinstein:
"...he invited me up to his hotel room. When I got there he was in his robe and asked me if I'd like a massage..."
OK. So what? She left. Nothing happened.
YOU WENT UP TO THE GUYS HOTEL ROOM!!!
He asked, you said yes. He thinks he's going to get lucky because you want to be with a rich movie producer. You think he wants you in a movie...or, lets be honest, you were HOPING you could get something out of him like a movie part or whatever.
Then you got there and found out he just wanted to pick you up and nothing more. So you left.
How the fuck is that sexual assault?
I mean, what's next? A guy sits down at the bar next to a lady and says, "may I buy you a drink" and a fucking SWAT team drops from the ceiling and pummels his ass and carts him off to jail?!?!