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Bareback

Bareback

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whitebb2727 said:
Ugh. So right. My oldest is becoming a woman. :wall:
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I've got some fatherly advice ( for all father's and moms alike ) .

As your children grow, grow with them. Here's what I mean, if I can put this to words.
1. Newborns - be the parent of a newborn.
2. Toddlers - be the parent of a toddler and not a newborn, don't treat them like a little baby.
3. First graders...... not the parent of a toddler.
4. Third graders..... not.....a first grader.
5. 5th-6th graders..... not.....
6. Teenagers- ( holy shit ) it starts getting deeply complicated now. And basically you have to show them that you love and trust them. And support them when they make mistakes. But what ever you do don't treat them like kids any more.
7. Late teens- ( double holy shit ) This is the time to show them that you really trust them and that they are responsible for themselves, but yet you still support them no matter what.
8. Young adults- I love you but pay your own bills.
9. 25+ - I love you but you really have to pay your own bills. No shit pay your own bills....
10. 28+ - Give me a hug, so good to see you, I'm so proad of you......blah,blah, blah please come to visit more often.


Anyway what I am really trying to say is love them, support them, and be the parent of the kid/kids you have right now not the kid you had a couple years ago.

And beware if you do a really good job, and have a great relationship....... empty nest really sucks:sad::sad::sad:
 
Chunky Stool

Chunky Stool

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Bareback said:
I've got some fatherly advice ( for all father's and moms alike ) .

As your children grow, grow with them. Here's what I mean, if I can put this to words.
1. Newborns - be the parent of a newborn.
2. Toddlers - be the parent of a toddler and not a newborn, don't treat them like a little baby.
3. First graders...... not the parent of a toddler.
4. Third graders..... not.....a first grader.
5. 5th-6th graders..... not.....
6. Teenagers- ( holy shit ) it starts getting deeply complicated now. And basically you have to show them that you love and trust them. And support them when they make mistakes. But what ever you do don't treat them like kids any more.
7. Late teens- ( double holy shit ) This is the time to show them that you really trust them and that they are responsible for themselves, but yet you still support them no matter what.
8. Young adults- I love you but pay your own bills.
9. 25+ - I love you but you really have to pay your own bills. No shit pay your own bills....
10. 28+ - Give me a hug, so good to see you, I'm so proad of you......blah,blah, blah please come to visit more often.


Anyway what I am really trying to say is love them, support them, and be the parent of the kid/kids you have right now not the kid you had a couple years ago.

And beware if you do a really good job, and have a great relationship....... empty nest really sucks:sad::sad::sad:
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I'm totally diggin' the empty nest! 8)
 
whitebb2727

whitebb2727

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Bareback said:
I've got some fatherly advice ( for all father's and moms alike ) .

As your children grow, grow with them. Here's what I mean, if I can put this to words.
1. Newborns - be the parent of a newborn.
2. Toddlers - be the parent of a toddler and not a newborn, don't treat them like a little baby.
3. First graders...... not the parent of a toddler.
4. Third graders..... not.....a first grader.
5. 5th-6th graders..... not.....
6. Teenagers- ( holy shit ) it starts getting deeply complicated now. And basically you have to show them that you love and trust them. And support them when they make mistakes. But what ever you do don't treat them like kids any more.
7. Late teens- ( double holy shit ) This is the time to show them that you really trust them and that they are responsible for themselves, but yet you still support them no matter what.
8. Young adults- I love you but pay your own bills.
9. 25+ - I love you but you really have to pay your own bills. No shit pay your own bills....
10. 28+ - Give me a hug, so good to see you, I'm so proad of you......blah,blah, blah please come to visit more often.


Anyway what I am really trying to say is love them, support them, and be the parent of the kid/kids you have right now not the kid you had a couple years ago.

And beware if you do a really good job, and have a great relationship....... empty nest really sucks:sad::sad::sad:
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Sounds like great advice. I'm with my kids every day and treat them well. I help them daily with homework. I tuck them in at night and read to them and tell them I love them all the time.

The biggest thing I guess is I'm trying to teach all my kids responsibility, mainly the oldest. She has more chores now and doesn't like it.
 
Olive Drab Green

Olive Drab Green

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Bareback said:
I've got some fatherly advice ( for all father's and moms alike ) .

As your children grow, grow with them. Here's what I mean, if I can put this to words.
1. Newborns - be the parent of a newborn.
2. Toddlers - be the parent of a toddler and not a newborn, don't treat them like a little baby.
3. First graders...... not the parent of a toddler.
4. Third graders..... not.....a first grader.
5. 5th-6th graders..... not.....
6. Teenagers- ( holy shit ) it starts getting deeply complicated now. And basically you have to show them that you love and trust them. And support them when they make mistakes. But what ever you do don't treat them like kids any more.
7. Late teens- ( double holy shit ) This is the time to show them that you really trust them and that they are responsible for themselves, but yet you still support them no matter what.
8. Young adults- I love you but pay your own bills.
9. 25+ - I love you but you really have to pay your own bills. No shit pay your own bills....
10. 28+ - Give me a hug, so good to see you, I'm so proad of you......blah,blah, blah please come to visit more often.


Anyway what I am really trying to say is love them, support them, and be the parent of the kid/kids you have right now not the kid you had a couple years ago.

And beware if you do a really good job, and have a great relationship....... empty nest really sucks:sad::sad::sad:
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I dunno if that sequence applies to a mentally ill mother/broken family. Like, I’m 28, and last time I heard from my mother was 2 years ago when she called me a baby killer.

Anyway, enough of that drama. Sorry, guys, I’m just a bit sleep deprived. In any case, my daughter is never going to know her grandmother, and she’s never going to be left to believe she isn’t loved.
 
Bareback

Bareback

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Chunky Stool said:
I'm totally diggin' the empty nest! 8)
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Me and the wife are broken hearted. It's kinda crazy because our relationship has improved a bunch, but we are just lost not having any kids to raise. However my daughter is still in school and still needs us, but it ain't the same as when they were younger.
I think I might have a touch of the holiday blues, I'll get over it when the credit card bills come in.

On a side note I'm going to look at a 4 wheeler so I'll probably have a new toy to occupy my time this afternoon.
 
Olive Drab Green

Olive Drab Green

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Thank God for this Kali Mist and Serious Casey. A friend just dropped off a half of the former and a quarter of the latter. Now I can stop puking and maybe shut down.

Bareback said:
Me and the wife are broken hearted. It's kinda crazy because our relationship has improved a bunch, but we are just lost not having any kids to raise. However my daughter is still in school and still needs us, but it ain't the same as when they were younger.
I think I might have a touch of the holiday blues, I'll get over it when the credit card bills come in.

On a side note I'm going to look at a 4 wheeler so I'll probably have a new toy to occupy my time this afternoon.
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N’awwwe. That’s the relationship I really want to have with mine. I think she’ll be a mostly docile, loving, intelligent kid, and probably somewhat moderately mischievous, but not to a sadistic or otherwise vicious degree. If she has depression issues, we’re going the cannabis route well before pharmaceuticals, for sure. 50 different SSRIs, SNRIs, NDRIs, Tricyclics, Neuroleptics, Mood Stabilizers, Benzodiazepines, AMPHETAMINES, only ever served to make me worse.
 
Bareback

Bareback

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@Olive Drab Green I came from a broken home, Mom was an addict Dad was a drunk and never in the picture. Stepdad was a drunk but had a strong work ethic, my brothers and I spent time in a orphanage. But I made damn sure my kids had a home, got a good education, and their lives nothing like mine. So I know you can too, and you will. Just focus on what is ahead of you and not the past. I remember reading all the post you made two or so years ago, and I see so of the work you put in paying off . Your doing great , and life will kick you sometimes but you got this man.

Sorry for rambling .
 
Olive Drab Green

Olive Drab Green

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Bareback said:
@Olive Drab Green I came from a broken home, Mom was an addict Dad was a drunk and never in the picture. Stepdad was a drunk but had a strong work ethic, my brothers and I spent time in a orphanage. But I made damn sure my kids had a home, got a good education, and their lives nothing like mine. So I know you can too, and you will. Just focus on what is ahead of you and not the past. I remember reading all the post you made two or so years ago, and I see so of the work you put in paying off . Your doing great , and life will kick you sometimes but you got this man.

Sorry for rambling .
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Definitely getting my shit together. I was still popping pills when I first got here. Thanks, bro, and I’m glad you rose above. I’m getting there. Mostly already there. Still some work left to do. Really sorry for being a drag. It’s mostly the sleep dep.
 
Roger A. Shrubber

Roger A. Shrubber

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Indacouch said:
Upper Res infection, brother has been battling the same thing for a week now. His fever jumped to 101.6 and wouldn't seem to break, plus he was acting kinda strange. The doc prescribed some meds for him.I'm headed home to try to sleep for at least a bit before lil Inda wakes up. Thanks guys


@curious2garden I knew you weren't an option that early grandma Annie. I thought about it though.
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that shits going around, i had it two weeks ago, took about ten days to get over....worst part was coughing so hard i couldn't catch a buzz 8(
 
dstroy

dstroy

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Indacouch said:
Lil Inda is on the mend, momma thinks she's starting to feel shitty. I've been taking antibiotics for some dental work, so maybe that's why I've been alright IDK ....I figured you would have said take him in tbh ....the fever was concerning of course, but he started acting weird even for a sick baby ....but you know how Sar is Annie ....if nothing else it calmed her down taking him in. Long night though
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Glad he's alright. We all just got over the flu here on the opposite side of the country. Everyone in the house had it even though we all got our flu shots.
 
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