Caught my wife snooping

bleezyg420

bleezyg420

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matthew said:
Last night I was in my office and walked into the bedroom to find my wife with my iPhone. She put it down like she wasn't reading it and right on the screen was a text conversation I was having with a friend. The crappy thing is that the conversation is me asking him to save his bag seeds and about him getting me an ounce this weekend. That is bad because later that day I called my buddy and told him to forget about it. About a week ago my wife asked me to quit smoking and I told her I would (I actually did) but I had a moment of weakness.

I will be honest, I have lied to her about things in the past. The 2 big ones were about me not drinking anymore (I have had alcohol issues in the past) and about porn. I have never cheated on her and never would. I have never given her any reason to think I would (other than the fact that on her last snooping expedition she found spam from eharmony).

I really don't know how to react, I feel like I should be pissed but at the same time I kinda understand because I have lied in the past.
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she's trying to change who you are. That sucks. Ive been down that road. Its just kinda to late, since she's your wife already! I would ditch her
 
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matthew

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Stoney McFried said:
I hope shit works out matthew.Yeah, we don't have her side of the story...but I'm just answering based on what you've told us.If this is how it is, then get out.Live, you're too young to be married.Live, live, live, before you wish you had.
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Personally I am ready but I would kick myself for the rest of my life if I didn't give her a chance. She was really down last night and asked me if I even still loved her :roll:. I told her of course I did but a lot was going to have to change after she got out of school or I was gone. I told her I was going to start being my own man and doing what I want to do, of course she brought up pot. I told her I am a grown man and if I want to smoke its my prerogative. She told me that for her that was a deal breaker, she couldn't be with a pot smoker, I just said "sorry". The she turned it all on me saying that I was picking pot over her, I told her I was picking being a man over being dominated, she can take it or leave it (of course if she leaves it the gravy train comes to a screeching halt). So if I have the extra cash I am going to grab an O this weekend and might just smoke it in front of her. Afterall she works till 10 tonight, works all day during the day tomorrow, then is going out with her girlfriends that night. Honestly I could buy it, smoke 1/4 of it and she would never know it.
 
misshestermoffitt

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She has never smoked pot has she? You need to get her drunk and then get her high and all that "I hate pot" shit will fade right away.

I hated pot too, and then I smoked some, now I start my day wakin and bakin. bongsmilie
 
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matthew

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misshestermoffitt said:
She has never smoked pot has she? You need to get her drunk and then get her high and all that "I hate pot" shit will fade right away.

I hated pot too, and then I smoked some, now I start my day wakin and bakin. bongsmilie
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I agree but getting her stoned would be very tough, even drunk.
 
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HotNSexyMILF

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I dunno what state you are in or what the laws are there.. but if she's really pissed, might not wanna smoke in front of her or anything- would hate to see her call the cops on ya man..

But congrats on standing up for yourself!

Should have asked her in return if she loved you.. and if so why was she trying to change who you are because it somehow suits what she wants- that isn't love man..
 
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matthew

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HotNSexyMILF said:
I dunno what state you are in or what the laws are there.. but if she's really pissed, might not wanna smoke in front of her or anything- would hate to see her call the cops on ya man..

But congrats on standing up for yourself!

Should have asked her in return if she loved you.. and if so why was she trying to change who you are because it somehow suits what she wants- that isn't love man..
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I would welcome her to. We live in an unincorporated area where the police have a half hour, code 3 (lights and sirens, hauling ass) response time to us. Not to mention that I wouldn't let them in the door.
 
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fdd2blk

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roll up a tray of fatties. get some doritos and cupcakes. strip down to dirty underwear. spread out on the couch and pop in some porn. get bake and wait for her to get home. when she walks in say, "this is me. do you love me?" :)
 
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matthew

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fdd2blk said:
roll up a tray of fatties. get some doritos and cupcakes. strip down to dirty underwear. spread out on the couch and pop in some porn. get bake and wait for her to get home. when she walks in say, "this is me. do you love me?" :)
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lol, as a pretty heavy drinker I can hide it pretty damn well, I can do it pretty good with weed unless I am super baked. The other day she said that her friend told her sex on weed is great, I said "hell ya it is", knowing she is the only woman I have ever slept with she got a really funny look on her face. She asked me who I had sex with while I was stoned, I got this look on my face :blsmoke:
 
daydrops

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matthew said:
Last night I was in my office and walked into the bedroom to find my wife with my iPhone. She put it down like she wasn't reading it and right on the screen was a text conversation I was having with a friend. The crappy thing is that the conversation is me asking him to save his bag seeds and about him getting me an ounce this weekend. That is bad because later that day I called my buddy and told him to forget about it. About a week ago my wife asked me to quit smoking and I told her I would (I actually did) but I had a moment of weakness.

I will be honest, I have lied to her about things in the past. The 2 big ones were about me not drinking anymore (I have had alcohol issues in the past) and about porn. I have never cheated on her and never would. I have never given her any reason to think I would (other than the fact that on her last snooping expedition she found spam from eharmony).
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i hate to hear stories like this. life is goddamn short. look at porn, smoke weed and party...even if you're married.

your partner should be willing to give you whatever you want to be happy in our short lives. and vise-versa.
 
bleezyg420

bleezyg420

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matthew said:
lol, as a pretty heavy drinker I can hide it pretty damn well, I can do it pretty good with weed unless I am super baked. The other day she said that her friend told her sex on weed is great, I said "hell ya it is", knowing she is the only woman I have ever slept with she got a really funny look on her face. She asked me who I had sex with while I was stoned, I got this look on my face :blsmoke:
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You guys got married to early. I feel so bad, your situation is a shitty one. Shes the nut case, your fine.
 
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matthew

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bleezyg420 said:
You guys got married to early. I feel so bad, your situation is a shitty one. Shes the nut case, your fine.
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I know you are trying to be funny with the "nut case" thing but she very well might be bi-polar. He dad is an undiagnosed but I would bet my house that he is at the very least bi-polar.
 
sarah22

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matthew said:
I know you are trying to be funny with the "nut case" thing but she very well might be bi-polar. He dad is an undiagnosed but I would bet my house that he is at the very least bi-polar.
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bi polar can be treated pretty well with a combination of meds and therapy...what i have is similar to bi polar...but a little more severe cuz its a personality disorder as opposed to a mood disorder...im doing alright for now. the only problem is that you cant force someone to go to therapy...they really have to be ready for it...but i would read up a little on bi polar and see if you can find some info about how to approach her about getting help..its hard. im not gonna lie. i've been trying to get my mom help for a long time, shes on meds but its not enough...so she needs therapy. but just stress the point that she WILL start to feel better with help. its a long bumpy road...but its very worth it when u find something that works. and im willing to bet that once she starts feeling better your marriage will get better too...if you choose to continue the marriage.
 
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matthew

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sarah22 said:
bi polar can be treated pretty well with a combination of meds and therapy...what i have is similar to bi polar...but a little more severe cuz its a personality disorder as opposed to a mood disorder...im doing alright for now. the only problem is that you cant force someone to go to therapy...they really have to be ready for it...but i would read up a little on bi polar and see if you can find some info about how to approach her about getting help..its hard. im not gonna lie. i've been trying to get my mom help for a long time, shes on meds but its not enough...so she needs therapy. but just stress the point that she WILL start to feel better with help. its a long bumpy road...but its very worth it when u find something that works. and im willing to bet that once she starts feeling better your marriage will get better too...if you choose to continue the marriage.
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She went to a general doctor just to get an anti-depressant. She took it for a few weeks and then stopped because she said it made her feel emotionally numb. Of course the few weeks she was on it were great. She keeps giving me BS excuses about making an appointment. I have tracked down a psychiatrist for her and did everything but made the appointment (can't because of HIPPA). She keeps putting it off or saying she forgot.

Like I said, I talked to her about it last night and told her where she gets done with school things are going to change or she is going to pack. I am tired of this shit and I honestly think I could do a lot better than what she is giving me right now.
 
bleezyg420

bleezyg420

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my eyes keep making me think it says " Caught My Wife Smoochin". I had a girlfriend that controlled me once. I let it happen, very aware of it happening, and did nothing about it. That relationship was hell. She was the same way, I cant be with a pot head. I met that bitch tokeing a fat blunt! WTF??
 
sarah22

sarah22

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matthew said:
She went to a general doctor just to get an anti-depressant. She took it for a few weeks and then stopped because she said it made her feel emotionally numb. Of course the few weeks she was on it were great. She keeps giving me BS excuses about making an appointment. I have tracked down a psychiatrist for her and did everything but made the appointment (can't because of HIPPA). She keeps putting it off or saying she forgot.

Like I said, I talked to her about it last night and told her where she gets done with school things are going to change or she is going to pack. I am tired of this shit and I honestly think I could do a lot better than what she is giving me right now.
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that can happen...i dont take antidepressants anymore either. they really can make you feel like a total zombie...and thats worse than feeling depressed...trust me i've been there...but if she does happen to be bi polar theres other types of meds, like lithium which is a mood stabilizer, that a lot of bi polars find helpful. but the therapy is essential...its the absolute hardest part, but its the most helpful. im gonna see if i can find a couple websites for you to look over...i'll be back to post some info later
 
sarah22

sarah22

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bleezyg420 said:
my eyes keep making me think it says " Caught My Wife Smoochin". I had a girlfriend that controlled me once. I let it happen, very aware of it happening, and did nothing about it. That relationship was hell. She was the same way, I cant be with a pot head. I met that bitch tokeing a fat blunt! WTF??
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hypocrites drive me nuts. lol. i honestly believe that pot smokers should be together...because pot is a lifestyle...a completely different culture of people and stuff...and it bugs me when girls try to have total control over their bf's and when they try and change them. like one of my friends flipped right out when her boyfriend went to a titty bar with his buddies. i told her to get over herself and relax...lol. most chicks just need to chill the fuck out...and you should always accept your bf or gf for who they are...never try to change them.
 
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