Well, I have a male right now that is sitting outside, in a small pot, and that small pot is in a big bucket so no one can see it, it seems like you don't want to have anything outside, so I think SmeLLy's got the right idea with the CFLs.
Also, when I pollinate I take the female out of the room, brush the pollen, let her sit there for a couple hours, then I spray her down with water (water destroys the pollen) and just put her back, this is with an auto so she goes back to a room that has some plants vegging and some more autos. There doesn't seem to be any rogue pollen that has gotten on the other autos. But yeah, pollen can get on your clothes, hair, fingernails, anywhere really... I'm sure you'll figure it out.