i've had 40 years experience.... blah blah blah, maybe you should have spent 5 minutes working on your people skills and maybe folks would warm to you better.
I've owned three businesses, a franchise car dealership and a marina (where among offering all other marina services we sold boats) and the nursery. We were a small mom and pop, with mom missing, car dealership in a tiny town but I averaged 27 cars sold per month. At the marina we were the second largest dealer in the nation for the type of pontoon boat we sold. I averages 250 boats sold per season, that equals out to just over 62 boats per month. I was the number of salesman in the nation three years in a row.
I have impressive people skills when dealing with real people, but when dealing with anonymous near nonentities online, many of which are in the Beavis and Butthead category, I soon learned that niceties and charm are next to meaningless because there will always be a group of ego driven little clown shoes who want and need to believe they know it all when in fact they do now know dick and they will argue with you until the cows come home and never accept and admit to being wrong or knowing less.
Since they are incapable of factually refuting what you say they instead attack you personally, degenerate you, abuse you and use every infantile adolescent trick in the book to attempt to discredit you in hopes of doing so will make them appear to know more, to be more experienced, to be offering better advice.
I tell it like it is, and not how it ain't and how it ain't never gonna be. (Improper English used for purposes of emphasis.) I don't candy coat, I don't coddle, I don't wrap my advice up in shiny wrapping paper with a pretty pink bow on it. People can heed my advice and learn and by doing so become better more successful growers or they can ignore what I say and remain ignorant. It's their choice.
Even though I have 138 'friends' in my friends list I am not here to make friends. Even though I have received 992 'likes' I am not here to be liked. I am here to provide the best and most help I can. If someone is uninterested in that and doesn't want my help because I will not tongue someone's ass while providing help, that's totally Kool and the Gang with me.