I have spanked my children. I have NEVER "beaten" my children. Or anyone else, for God's sake. Give me a break. Those are not even close to being on the same level. My children don't often need to be spanked, because they learned quickly that they don't like spankings, and spankings happen when bad behavior is exhibited...so see they avoid said bad behavior. I have a look and a word I can say at any time, in any place, that lets my children know they are on their last chance before a spanking. Usually, that's where it ends. The behavior improves dramatically and we go on with our lives. They have never, ever, been "beaten". I don't leave them with black eyes I leave them with slightly red asses. Which they needed at the time. I have four kids. Four very different personalities. Spanking has worked with all four. My children are obedient and respectful and *happy*. They have boundaries, they have rules, they have consequences. They also have love, they have fun, they know they have safety. Because even my children, as young as they are, know that they have not been beaten, they have been spanked, and they know there's a difference.