He cheated on me and had a kid....with his ex

FM420 said:

Live and let live Kitty, if what you say is true about the fella phoning you everyday and going through that break up, then for him to turn around do the same to you, he does not deserve the time of day...plain and simple. Can't let yourself sit and mope about, feeling down and out (I know, I know its easier said than done) because you can bet yer bottom dollar him and his new girl aren't...not one bit.

I'd say go out and get involved in new activities and hobbies, find something you even have a mild interest in and run with it...part of liking something is also learning to like it so even if you don't go crazy for at it first, stick with it and as you learn more and gain knowledge you'll start to enjoy and like it more...and then there's no stopping ya ...it will also be a great oppurtunity for you to make new friends and aquantaces and in turn they'll help you through this tough time, even though they might not know it.

I fell head over heels for a girl who in turn was head over heels in love with my best friend and when I found out it was like a bomb went off! I was devastated to say the least and after a month or so of constantly thinking and doing my own head in I said to myself I can't go on like this forever I'm a right grumpy bastard lol so I started lifting weights and working out, got really involved in sea fishing (it was an old passion before I turned 18 and started getting wasted every weekend) and started reading more, learning more and just generally keeping myself busy...now im in shape (and also met a bunch of friendly helpfull people from the gyms I go to), I've honed my sea fishing skills more than I thought I ever could have, I've read more books than I know what to do with and gained vast amounts of knowledge and enjoyment from doing so...and the best thing, I stopped thinking about this girl a long long time ago. It just takes time, effort and also a willingness to move on and you eventually will.

Keep the chin up

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Eddie G. said:

i can totally relate to u.. i was with a girl for 4 years... my whole high school career... we were really serious about each other... we even got to the point were she got my name tattoed in her back for my BDAy... so i felt obligated to get her initials tattoed on my arm 2! at the moment it seemed alright but now that i think about it "WAT THE FUCK WAS I THINKING!!!!!"" i seriously thought that i was gonna be with her for the rest of my life and that i was never gonna find another girl like her!!... once we both went to college things got very difficult like u can imagine! she became super bitchy and always picked a fight about small ass things!! over myspace messages, she always thoght i was cheating on her and shit like that!!! so i decided to break it up... i knew it hurt us both but it was the best for both of us... a few years later and im happier then ever!! i got back in touch with my old friends that i lost when i was with her... basically all i wanna say is that although u think ur never gonna move on and that at the moment u think that ur never gonna find another partner,,, just do things that u love to to do that u stopped doing while in the relationship... get in touch with old friends... its prolly gonna take a while for u to completely forget him but believe me if u try it will happen... slowly but surely... things might suck right now but in a while ur gonna think "damn i was stupid for acting like that over that loser" hahaha believe me... im gonna take a hit for ya sweety =] and stay strong,,, and dont kill no body!!

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SarcasticHobbes said:

I'm sorry, haven't read the whole thread(about to meet my gf for our date) and I was just curious...did he ever get a paternity test done?

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AcidElement said:

First id like to sayim sorry to hear that ... having felt feelings similar to those you have i know how awful the situation can be. But Impowerment is the best solution . After losing someone who has litteraly become everything is hard no doubt. But it just means you gotta start from the begining and re-establish some of thoese lost friendships.

however this is suppose to be about anger more then anything... first id like to.. say although some of your anger should be focused towards her . most of it should be focoused towards him... cause truthfully it takes two to tango and he is playing along...altho he has his own responsibility as a Father.

Regardless, prevent your self time to sit there and vent up anger .. fill in your time with a new hobbie, new friends . When you feel like you really need to let it out .. some sort of phsyical excersive is imparative.. I dunno how "active" RIU users are but i Hit the gym almost 5 ddays a week .. and when im pissed .. and feel like i need to beat some one.. i hit the bag (boxing bag ) .. some times when i need to clear my mind i go for a Jog .. regardless to sum it up .. find something to fill in time to prevent "roaming thoughts" and phsyical excersize.. and then one day you'll wake up and that stinging feeling is gone ... i hope you feel better !!

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dutchfunkle said:

i can see exactly why he cheated,ur a crazy bitch and couldnt get the hint he didnt want to be with you anymore,just tryin 2 call it like I see it.Cmon,ur talkin premeditated murder,can u say "the crush"

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GrowTech said:

Why would you want to hurt the other girl? The guy who is responsible for all this is the one who MADE THE DECISION to cheat on YOU... unless you were dating this girl too, you should keep her out of it...

You can't just go around attacking people like that.... shit catches up to ya.

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gscanaba said:

stay away from them but every chance u get just punch him in the head ( i love saying in teh head more than in the face i dunno why ))

anyway just move on and be better....

slice his tires every month that will piss him off heheheh

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tom__420 said:

You are acting kind of pre teenish purplekitty. And by the way you did ask for anyone who reads your post to reply in the thread. You should have expected some of these responses, this forum is on the internet. Anyone can read it....

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IndicaFatnHeavy said:

Better to have loved and lost, then have never loved at all.... i dont wanna sound like a dick.. i know it must hurt... but get over it.

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tom__420 said:

You are acting kind of pre teenish purplekitty. And by the way you did ask for anyone who reads your post to reply in the thread. You should have expected some of these responses, this forum is on the internet. Anyone can read it....

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dutchfunkle said:

Someone who goes around internet forums proclaiming premeditated murder is fuckin crazy,who were YOUR parents to raise YOU otherwise?Oh btw,theres plenty o' sausage in the sea,catch ya later sugartits....kiss-ass

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purplekitty7772008 said:

If you read this, please post.

We were together for 2 years.

And this happened.

I'm very hurt, confused, and angry.

I don't know what to do guys. I just need someone to talk
to I guess.

He was my only friend.
I stopped talking to my girls when we started to get serious.

and now that we're over, I feel very very alone.

I can truly say that I'm so angry inside, if I had the chance
to murder his ex and get away with it, I would surely do it.

I've actually been thinking about how to get away with killing
her, and I know that's not a good thing to be thinking about.

I told him staying with him is not what I want because I'm not
going to be sharing the responsibility of a kid I did not birth.

Sunday, she offered to take him out for fathers day. I told him I didn't
want him going out with her and he said he was gonna go anyway.

He told me he was going to his mom's house after going out to eat.
So I waited at her house (no one was home)

and when I see them pull up, he is driving HER car and hugging her!!!!!
(wtf was he doing driving her car!!!!!!!!!!!)
This really made me go crazy. I went outside, punched him in the head
and told his ex to get out the car so I could beat her ass.

She was like "its my son's birthday..." (it actually was, but I don't
give a shit)


and I was like "Bitch, I don't give a fuck. get out of the fuckin car so I can beat your ass"

She just sat there in the car looking scared and this really pissed me off.


(This bitch has been talking shit to me about "beating my ass" for months.
And has been calling me all types of wenches, whores, and bitches.
So I told her when I get the chance, I'm gonna put her ass in the hospital.)

I tried to get close enough to punch her thru
the window but my boyfriend (now ex) was holding me back. He told her
to leave and then we went in the house. I was so pissed, I attacked him.

He told me to get away from him because I'm "crazy" and he ran in the bathroom. Well, I guess I was so pissed and there was so much
adrenaline in me, I kicked the door down
(great, now I just kicked down his mom's door and he doesn't even live
there anymore)




Then I find out, that his ex fucking snitched on me to his gramma
and mom. (now I really want to kill the bitch)

Then his gramma starts sending me texts being rude. I almost cussed
her old ass out. I know you're supposed to respect your elders, but

I'm not the type of person to let someone sit there and talk shit to me.
(thats why I want to kill his ex).

I absolutely HATE when people test me. And that bitch (ex) has been
testing me for months calling me names THINKING I wouldn't do anything.

Now that she knows I'm serious about beating her to a pulp, she hasn't
said anything to me. And I even saw her at school and she didn't even
LOOK at me.

The sad thing is, I absolutely KNEW if I stayed with him, I would
end up seriously hurting, or possibly killing someone and I'd be the
next person on Oxygen's "Snapped".

I don't know how to deal with all of these emotions and I think I'm going
to hurt someone. I just really need some advice on keeping
my self calm so I don't do something I will regret.


Suggestions.....

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tom__420 said:

huh??????????

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IF

do you really think I would be able to get away with Killing her?
No claro que si!!!!

lol. thats why I said IF. Because I know there is no way in hell
I would get away with it. Everyone knows I hate her, and I would
be the first suspect on the list.

You guys seriously need to learn how to read.

tom__420 said:

You are acting kind of pre teenish purplekitty. And by the way you did ask for anyone who reads your post to reply in the thread. You should have expected some of these responses, this forum is on the internet. Anyone can read it....

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tom__420 said:

Why don't you go out and meet someone new instead of worrying about what people say in this thread?

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