malignant
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dunno, i do know one of the t&t mods is a total dousche but i havent seen that turd in a while..
How Do/Did You Speak to Your Parents?
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PeyoteReligion
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Looks like it will stick this time! I vote leave Rowlmans post up this time!
cannabineer
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Rowl, i found your post on a neighboring thread ... you just mislaid it. :bigtoke: cn
rowlman
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Finshaggy
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Well... I don't talk to my dad. And haven't really since I was like 13. But my mom...Sometimes our conversations are as if she is a friend, sometimes as if she is a sibling, sometimes as if she is a parent, sometimes as if she is a child and sometimes as if she is a spouse. She never really "grew up". But why should she?
Yeah we used to get into deep conversations...Now she's going through a bunch of bullshit and just yells all the time...
One time I asked what she was trying to do when she raised me... We've talked about of other stuff too, she was pretty open with us our whole childhood
But I love her
stumps
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brandon727272
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When I talk to my parents I speak to them both as a friend and a mentor. I speak to them very casually, and can tell them pretty much anything. They make not like what I say at times, but most of the time they are just happy I am honest about pretty much everything. I can definitely talk to my mom a lot easier, I have talked to her for 30+ minutes everyday during the morning while I make breakfast for the majority of my life. Most of these conversations weren't deep however, some were. I'm really happy I can tell my parents anything, and they have a mutual respect towards me where I'm not only their son, but one of their best friends.
CR500ROOST
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I could tell my parents anything.they ant the best parents though.
Shannon Alexander
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I talk to babies as human beings and not babies, they may not understand but they don't understand the gibberish people use either and why set them back in their development by making them think that that is how they should make noises..?
rowlman
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I like to baby talk to adults all gibberish ...maybe a goochie goo on the chin...just to see their reaction.....then I usually have to duck and run though.
silasraven
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never got along, they always prosumed the world went their way and if you didnt follow you were a failure. i yelled at my parents gave them a hard time, wish i had done it a whole lot sooner
Joedank
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At different times in my life I have had all forms of relationships with my folks. Young; uncontested love teen ; outright disdain young adult; slow to the truth of what I am up to. Man; utter respect I have two amazing adults to call friends and teachers.
It truly took years for me to level with them . Medical cannabis helps ease the stress growing a federally illegal plant causes.
I speak for hours to my mother and father it sometimes makes me judge them. And sometimes I get judged . Then I think we all kinda remember that we love each other so no mistake or ploy can break our bonds my family is constant that is somthing to build by forgiving over anover...
It truly took years for me to level with them . Medical cannabis helps ease the stress growing a federally illegal plant causes.
I speak for hours to my mother and father it sometimes makes me judge them. And sometimes I get judged . Then I think we all kinda remember that we love each other so no mistake or ploy can break our bonds my family is constant that is somthing to build by forgiving over anover...
neosapien
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I interact with both my parents great. As I've gotten older I've started to realize they won't be here for ever. So the last couple years I've made efforts to see them more. My mom is usually who the deep conversations involve and me and my dad just bullshit about nothing for hours. My parents were very "Go ahead touch the stove see what happens" kind of parents growing up and let me figure most things out for myself, including drugs which they both did their fair share of. Now its not uncommon for us to have a session together every now and then. Those 2 people have helped me through the dark days countless times. I'm very lucky.
xKuroiTaimax
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My parents are extremely temperamental. They will be sweet one moment and totally flip out the next. My dad keeps himself to himself so I don't talk to him much to avoid making him annoyed. My mama can be childish and I will just chat to her like she is my friend at school. But can instantly switch and become a dictator, in which case I can either give as good as I get or cower. I tend to regard all people with the same level of respect and always 'chatted' with people older than me. I know not to raise my voice or swear at my parents though. If they start screaming at me and there is no doubt I'm in the right I will yell the truth to get my point across if need be.
For the most part I have to be very careful with my tone of voice. My mama especially likes to read into it and asks if I'm giving her attitude. We talk about clothes and her boyfriend and what is on tv but I am very very careful about crossing the line and pissing her off.
For the most part I have to be very careful with my tone of voice. My mama especially likes to read into it and asks if I'm giving her attitude. We talk about clothes and her boyfriend and what is on tv but I am very very careful about crossing the line and pissing her off.
Finshaggy
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This sounds like my parents.
Except that line has been shattered by my time in jail, my mom's honesty with us and bipolar swings, and my sisters overwhelming attitude...
And instead of "Avoiding (annoying) my dad" it's my step dad, and he doesn't keep to himself, he likes to start shit, get everyone mad...THEN keep to himself
But now he lives in a another statee with his new girl, WHILE HE'S STILL MARRIED. And left his kids for me to take care of with my mom...My sister makes it easier now that she's here though...
obijohn
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In my younger years I talked to them like a son would. Gave them grief being a smartass when I reached puberty, grew out of that phase. When I was an adult on on my own I talked to them like friends but didn't get into my private personal details...although my mom was never afraid to express approval or disapproval on some of my life choices. That's cool, she spoke her mind even though I didn't agree with everything she said, she did it out of love.
Both my parents died over the last 5 years, and both were headed downhill fast. Mom died after numerous strokes, my Dad lost most of his vision and was in a senior care home, and developed dementia pretty quickly. But we had some talks where he revealed a side of himself he never did before Mom died. Told me about his youthful misadventures and his history with women and related escapades. And told me how much he appreciated me looking after him and taking care of his affairs.
I was pretty lucky to have the parents I did. They even conceded that the music I listened to as a kid/young adult that they said was too loud and a lot of racket was actually pretty good. Told me that they were raised in a different musical climate and time and that over the years, they realized good music was good music
Both my parents died over the last 5 years, and both were headed downhill fast. Mom died after numerous strokes, my Dad lost most of his vision and was in a senior care home, and developed dementia pretty quickly. But we had some talks where he revealed a side of himself he never did before Mom died. Told me about his youthful misadventures and his history with women and related escapades. And told me how much he appreciated me looking after him and taking care of his affairs.
I was pretty lucky to have the parents I did. They even conceded that the music I listened to as a kid/young adult that they said was too loud and a lot of racket was actually pretty good. Told me that they were raised in a different musical climate and time and that over the years, they realized good music was good music
NewH2gro
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I randomly landed in here somehow, and ended up reading all of these posts. I can relate to a lot of your comments. I had a large family when I was young and over my 28 years have watched it dwindle to a few. I currently have a good relationship with both my parents, Took some growing up on my part. Mater Familia was the greatest, almost story book mom with the way she ran a household, except she keeps it real in a serious convo. No June Cleaver fakery. My dad was awesome when I was younger but worked out of town a lot for a few very important years of my life (13-1
Parents divorced @ 12. I developed an extremely hard head, became rebellious, and had very reckless lifestyle which caused much worry for both parents.(with good reason) . I can talk with my mom about things, current events, people, she is more able to reciprocate in bi directional communication. My dad, I spend more time listening to. I love him, but he talks about things and doesn't really ask much or seem to take in all of what I say, so I just let him talk. I know he won't be around forever so I visit him, but I think it's only because I feel obligated too. I guess I've never said that to anyone. I miss the memories of our past relationship. He pretty much just annoys me because its always the same things, same convo. He is 60 and set in his ways and not much is going to really change I guess, with the exception of his health. I spend a lot of time reading and learning about new ideas and concepts, and my parents being older, aren't as able to wrap their minds around it I guess. There are a lot of things I have tried to share with them that they will never understand, and there are some things I will never reveal to them, or anyone. They supported me and were always there for me, even when I was real fucked up in the game, so I will do the same for them. With a good family comes the responsibility of taking care of them if something happens, and the burden of watching some of them pass. We get thrown into this life with no say so or preparation, to deal the best we can. My parents made this life tolerable and allowed me to see that we should enjoy it, because we are going to be here either way, no need to make it worse. I hope you can all find peace with yours. Thanks for reading.
Parents divorced @ 12. I developed an extremely hard head, became rebellious, and had very reckless lifestyle which caused much worry for both parents.(with good reason) . I can talk with my mom about things, current events, people, she is more able to reciprocate in bi directional communication. My dad, I spend more time listening to. I love him, but he talks about things and doesn't really ask much or seem to take in all of what I say, so I just let him talk. I know he won't be around forever so I visit him, but I think it's only because I feel obligated too. I guess I've never said that to anyone. I miss the memories of our past relationship. He pretty much just annoys me because its always the same things, same convo. He is 60 and set in his ways and not much is going to really change I guess, with the exception of his health. I spend a lot of time reading and learning about new ideas and concepts, and my parents being older, aren't as able to wrap their minds around it I guess. There are a lot of things I have tried to share with them that they will never understand, and there are some things I will never reveal to them, or anyone. They supported me and were always there for me, even when I was real fucked up in the game, so I will do the same for them. With a good family comes the responsibility of taking care of them if something happens, and the burden of watching some of them pass. We get thrown into this life with no say so or preparation, to deal the best we can. My parents made this life tolerable and allowed me to see that we should enjoy it, because we are going to be here either way, no need to make it worse. I hope you can all find peace with yours. Thanks for reading.