Letting go of nearly every friend I have

ClaytonBigsby

ClaytonBigsby

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Man, what kind of friends did you guys have? My friends were the kind that would drop everything and not only bring me new brakes, but put them on (so I wouldn't get dirty in a suit) when mine completely failed 60 miles outside of town, or blew a hydraulic clutch line, etc. We have driven 4 hours one way to pick each other up because of a break up or break down. Fought back to back, 2 on 7. Bailed each other out in the wee hours of the morning. Moved each other half a dozen times, remodeled each other homes, worked on cars together, etc. Like twin brothers. Those relationships are the ones that hurt to walk away from when the give starts to heavily outweigh the take.
 
lahadaextranjera

lahadaextranjera

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Til the end of time there will always be freeloaders. People who cling to the rich coat tails of others. I've seen it my whole life with my parents, friends and work associates.

There was a guy out here who died. I won't say how because I don't want it researched. My friend who I've known for 8 yrs here was the poor guys boss. The accident happened on a Sunday (out of office) and he had to pay for the funeral, flights, return the body, sort out the Mum etc. It wasn't even his fault and he got fleeced.

Ive seen so many freeloaders in my time. They're the first to take someone up on a drink and the last ones to get a round in. Usually Australian!!! I get it too. Usually when they try to blag weed off me. Telling me I've got loads. Cheeky shits!
 
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glann

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ClaytonBigsby said:
Man, what kind of friends did you guys have? My friends were the kind that would drop everything and not only bring me new brakes, but put them on (so I wouldn't get dirty in a suit) when mine completely failed 60 miles outside of town, or blew a hydraulic clutch line, etc. We have driven 4 hours one way to pick each other up because of a break up or break down. Fought back to back, 2 on 7. Bailed each other out in the wee hours of the morning. Moved each other half a dozen times, remodeled each other homes, worked on cars together, etc. Like twin brothers. Those relationships are the ones that hurt to walk away from when the give starts to heavily outweigh the take.
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This is whats rare, in my experience its your "childhood" friends that are like that. The ones you grew up with, and even then its typically only a few people in your life. It seemed like when I turned 18 and got into the working population I started realizing just how shady, fake, selfish, and stupid the majority of society is. I honestly believe about 90% of the population falls into one of those categories. A lot of people don't have a true loyal bone in their body.

As many other people have said, if it doesn't benefit them...they really don't give a shit about it.

I've got 3 friends in my life that fall into the 'claytonbigsby' post. I hadn't talked to one of them in 2 years, I called him up one night I needed some help and BAM...he shows up in 15 minutes...Thats loyalty.
 
MojoRison

MojoRison

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Best friend, bailed me out and then took me to the beer store, his only question to me was " Your butt hurt?" {with wry smile}

Same friend, I haven't seen him in 5 yrs, run into him at at the mall, no accusations & no taunts just a look and then these words "It's time to get our drink on!"

I've known this man since grade 5 and till this day, when we get together the past is left there and everything can be discussed with only a brotherly hug as a result.

I love the man with all of my heart.
 
farmasensist

farmasensist

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That's why I wont make any new friends. Its hard enough trusting the ones you already have.

I've got a friend who just recently let one of his "friends" borrow a car for a few hours. This guy ends up taking the car on a three day crack binge and stealing my friends wallet and every form of ID he had. Now he has no money no car no id and he lost his job because of it and can't get another job without id or money to pay the phone bill or car to get to the interview.

This friend already owed me a bunch of money and since im the only person he knows who has money, now its my responsibility to give him more money until his birth certificate comes back from the other side of the country.

WTF do I do? Disown a good friend who has good intentions but is always in a bad situation because he's a dumb ass and then not get the money he owes me and lose a good friend? Or do I keep giving him money to help straighten out his life and wait to see if he pays me back or if more shit hits his fan? Both options suck but I don't really even feel like I have a choice.
 
HeartlandHank

HeartlandHank

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farmasensist said:
That's why I wont make any new friends. Its hard enough trusting the ones you already have.

I've got a friend who just recently let one of his "friends" borrow a car for a few hours. This guy ends up taking the car on a three day crack binge and stealing my friends wallet and every form of ID he had. Now he has no money no car no id and he lost his job because of it and can't get another job without id or money to pay the phone bill or car to get to the interview.

This friend already owed me a bunch of money and since im the only person he knows who has money, now its my responsibility to give him more money until his birth certificate comes back from the other side of the country.

WTF do I do? Disown a good friend who has good intentions but is always in a bad situation because he's a dumb ass and then not get the money he owes me and lose a good friend? Or do I keep giving him money to help straighten out his life and wait to see if he pays me back or if more shit hits his fan? Both options suck but I don't really even feel like I have a choice.
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Damn, rough..

A birth certificate can be had in 3-4 days for about $30-40 through a vital documents biz.
 
Dboi87

Dboi87

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HeartlandHank said:
Man... I was working today and thinking about this... very wise words.

It has me wondering if on the flip side of this I might be the one with the sense of entitlement, to what I want from them, in exchange for coin. If that makes sense?

Do I think they owe it to me to be what I consider a "cool guy" because I brought a cheese plate to the party?

Man, that is something to think about... I appreciate you sharing that thought. It's kinda "on another level", deep, or something, I don't know. It's a very very.. mature.. way to feel on this subject. If that makes sense..? I have a lot respect for that.

I don't know... I worked for like 12 hours today, tired. Lack of sleep takes my brain somewhere else. It's sort of like the closest thing I get to a psychedelic experience these days.. haha.
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Lol I know the overworked feeling...

I want to add here that although I let others be who they choose I still have my own morals and beliefs as a man.

I feel as a stand up guy (which I strive to always be to my hest ability), I won't accept anything unless I've earned it, or it is a kind gesture that I know I wouldn't hesitate to reciprocate.

So with that said I don't see anything wrong with you sometimes thinking "wtf dude? Have some consideration..."
 
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