Odd situation, seeking advice and input

UncleBuck

UncleBuck

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"detras de un pendejo viene otro''

let me see if i got this right: "behind every asshole there is another"

sorry to hear about all this pad. definitely friend me again if you have to make a new profile.

something is definitely setting off my shitty alarm here. i harbor great suspicions about her intentions. let us know how things evolve.
 
olylifter420

olylifter420

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let me see if i got this right: "behind every asshole there is another"
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not quite... and in this case, it is saying to let the bitch go, there will be some other fool willing to take up the challenge
 
Dizzle Frost

Dizzle Frost

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Padawanbater2 said:
So my gf and I break up, she gets another bf, a month later they break up and her and I start talking again. She finds out she's 6 weeks pregnant a day after I tell her we should get serious. I'm 99% sure it's her exbf's, not mine.

Wtf do I do?

She's already decided she's having it.
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wait it out and get a test done....sucks in the meantime tho.....thats a tuff situation man, if it was me id prolly tell her to go fuck herself
 
Finshaggy

Finshaggy

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Orithil said:
4th grade here, but similar story. Step dad was an alcoholic prick who took to keeping a loaded gun with him in the months prior to kicking me out because he didn't "feel safe around the nut case", and my step mom just wanted my dad to write off his previous kids and devote himself to the new marriage and her three bitch-ass daughters, which apparently wasn't too hard to do.

Whatever, not a therapy session - but think about this, which is worse :
A.) Having no father in the picture, or
B.) Having a father in the picture that regrets everything about you, or
C.) Having parents who fight all the time, separate when you're 6-12, be shuttled between the two with their new significant others and feeling lost in the mix?
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A...

Shiva has become my father, so in a way I am my own father.
I have guidance from a plant older than our race though.

@OP
Even if the kid doesn't have a dad, that is better than to have a dad that doesn't want you. To be your own man, and not be down trodden by a man in your life would be better than to grow up with a dad that doesn't feel like your his.

If you love her, and can live like that kids yours, and that's what you want in your life, go for it.

But before you make that decision, remember that there are like 6 billion people in the world, or more. Half of them are women. And most of them don't have someone elses kid already.
 
Finshaggy

Finshaggy

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Padawanbater2 said:
I have a really tough time knowing if it's love. I thought I was in love before and in retrospect it's clear it wasn't love. I don't know what that is so its really hard identifying it. I refuse to lie about something like that for someone's comfort. We have a pretty long history together, 2-3 years.. It would be hard not talking to her or seeing her.

We're both 24 years old.

Yeah that's one of the things that has always bothered me about her, we've separated a few times during that 3 year period for different reasons and each time I've still been 100% faithful with the hope of eventually getting back together, it was just something that didn't really occur to me to hook up with other girls (definitely could have) because she was there in the back of my mind.. But just about every time she was with a new dude. She's been sexually active with 3 other guys since we started dating 3 years ago. She revealed to me one of them was to "get back at me" for breaking up with her one of the times. The other ones was because she hates to be alone.. Knowing that hurts. She's since said she's over the 'games' like that..

Part of me thinks 'wtf is stopping her from doing the exact same thing if things get rocky for a few weeks again, she just going to find some replacement for me..?

It feels like it would be a constant reminder in my head seeing a kid I might raise.. 'I fucked someone else'..

Another thing that's really irking me is her story about it. I honestly don't buy it.. You good people give me your opinions.. She told me she only slept with him once, about a week after me and they used a condom.. So by some act of magic somehow she still ended up pregnant. Maybe it's just me but that's screaming 'bullshit!' to me...

Idk..

I really appreciate the help from everybody! She's effectively limited who I can talk to about this so you guys are all I've got.. I wonder what my dad would have to say about this...
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She's not going to stop, your right. She's 24, she didn't grow up because she got pregnant. She got scared.

You're only 24. Go find another girl. Find out if that kid is yours, but if it's not, tell her sorry and that you have stuff you still want to do. Even if you don't know what those things are, they are still there for you to do.
And there are many, many more girls to meet.

She didn't fuck him once. Girls just like to open up an old sore very softly. They don't want to tell you something that's going to make you mad, so in their heads they rationalize that "Well if THIS happened, then he can't be mad...And only this many times...and only with this guy...and blah blah blah"

If you can love that kid, and really really want to settle for a pregnant girl that may cheat on you... ... ...

I wouldn't.
 
Finshaggy

Finshaggy

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Padawanbater2 said:
Now I find out she's reading my posts and apparently I lied to you guys about some stuff in an attempt to make her look worse and me look better.

Can't speak your mind if you can't be honest. This might lead to creating an entirely new profile or leaving the forums completely.. Been here since 2006
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Dude...

Drop that...
Hell no...

She's got you on lock like spyin an shit, no no. Don't let her get you, that's someone elses kid in there.
Don't fall for it.
 
cannabineer

cannabineer

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Padawanbater2 said:
Now I find out she's reading my posts and apparently I lied to you guys about some stuff in an attempt to make her look worse and me look better.

Can't speak your mind if you can't be honest. This might lead to creating an entirely new profile or leaving the forums completely.. Been here since 2006
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To Mistress Bater:
come clean.
Whose is it?
You know the answer.
cheers 'neer
 
unohu69

unohu69

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I was in a similar boat many years ago, she was prego when I met her, only a couple of months so i didnt know right off. till we talked about it. I figured I could bounce if I had to, no big deal right? But I was there when she popped out. I love her just like one of mine, I cant tell a difference. And I dont ever let her (my ex) throw that "she aint yours" in my face ever..
The bitch was one of my biggest mistakes, but the kid is one of mine no matter what. 13 years later, still feel the same way bout my daughter. Love her for sure. And I never have the thought that she isnt mine.

So think hard and carefully, chances are the bitch aint worth the hassle, but that isnt the kids fault. If you still know for sure you dont want kids, then kick her to the curb man. You will heal from a break-up, but you wont heal from losing a kid.
 
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xKuroiTaimax

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Oooohh... I see with the additional information... Wow. She's a player.

And it's not fair to use a child as a bargaining chip. By all means, be part of the kid's life if he/she is yours but like I said in another thread like this, I hate it when shitty women screw up nice guys and make them suffer. Please don't lose the forgiving, sincere part of you but I hope you will never be walked all over like that again.

*rereads*

I actual can't believe some women can be like that. I'm so sorry for you
 
unohu69

unohu69

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some women are like that? Seems to me more than not. jus sayin. Im sure there are awesome chicks out there, but, yeah find one.. theres the problem. Just seem to find the crazy's.....
 
cannabineer

cannabineer

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xKuroiTaimax said:
Oooohh... I see with the additional information... Wow. She's a player.

And it's not fair to use a child as a bargaining chip. By all means, be part of the kid's life if he/she is yours but like I said in another thread like this, I hate it when shitty women screw up nice guys and make them suffer. Please don't lose the forgiving, sincere part of you but I hope you will never be walked all over like that again.

*rereads*

I actual can't believe some women can be like that. I'm so sorry for you
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Kuroi, I'm with you on this. I am in the autism spectrum myself, and the capacity of many people to be deliberately ... (not sure which negative adjective to use) simply floors me. cn
 
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