Last week i found out my mother is caught up in another, yeah another
, fucking "Nigerian" lover scam. She lost all her inheritance, $120K+, 6 years ago to the same thing. She's convinced this guy loves her, she stopped paying her bills to send him all her money every month for the last year. She's never met him, but she's gone to the airport a half dozen times to meet him, but something always happens where he's not there. She gave him access to her credit card and money market accounts. She's bought him bitcoin. She's been bumming money off me the whole time, knowing I'm living off my, dwindling, savings. Her car is, literally, falling apart, the headlight is hanging on the wire and the fender was peeled off in an accident and duct taped back on
. She's $5K behind on the equity loan, so I'm worried about the house I live in. It's "supposedly" my inheritance after my father's death, not officially, just on her word which isn't worth shit to me anymore, though she won't put me on the paperwork. I pay the taxes and insurance, only because she doesn't and they both fell into default multiple times, but she takes the tax write off. If i didn't, she woulda lost the house by now a coupe times.
For the last 2 years she had her friends and her side of the family convinced i was a verbally abusive asshole and that all her problems were my fault. She's been lying to them about this guy, she's got their families involved, using their info to send him money. She's got into a coupe of their faces, screaming at them when she found out they talked to each other and me about this situation. At least now they know the truth, it's all out in the open now. No more secrets.
I'm pretty sure I had an actual nervous breakdown. IDK what the fuck to do, this is the second time I've dealt with my own mother lying to my face, taking my money while she sends it over seas and showing no respect for me, she told me "maybe I shouldn't have trusted her". I don't get it, I was brought up in a home with strong family values, family came first, no matter what- before friends, before lovers, before the law. I've done nothing but try to help her, I orchestrated all the upgrades and remodeling work on her house after my father died, as she traveled for over a year. I bought her a car after hers died, I've bailed her out financially multiple times. I've literally been on my knees crying and begging her to get counseling, but she refuses. I had to get the police, the fbi and social services involved. I hate the fucking police, so thay want easy, but this isn't my mother anymore.
This is going to fuck my life up. I'm scaling back my growing if things don't smooth out, got 6 weeks to go on this cycle. I've already started giving away my surplus veg plants. She knows I grow and I don't know what vindictive shit she might pull. I'm legit, I just don't need the headache. I'm done with my cars, I'm thinking about selling my tools,
I need to be ready to bounce and start over somewhere else if I can't get, at least, financial control of this house. It's just not worth putting the time, money and effort into this house if she's just going to lose it. My father would be so disappointed.