Well I may be partial. You'll have to forgive my "emotional" response. Having not heard from my Mother is 8 days I called her local law enforcement to do a welfare check. I received a call with an explanation and condolences from the Sergent of that precinct.
Nobody knew this given the timing of my post. I did not openly share that I am experiencing compounded grief. I shouldn't have to. The only thing I did was posted a thought. That's it. That's all it took.
Like, I need an initiation?
hey, look, we're not unsympathetic people. but we don't know you, aren't aware of ANYTHING about you, and haven't had a chance to get to know you.
quite honestly, seeing how a person replies to an entirely inappropriate statement or question is quite revealing. it lets you know in at least a general way, how that person perceives the world, and how they react to it.....
so yeah...most people get an initiation, when they step beyond being an observer, and start to participate in the community.....it isn't always the same....but it's pretty rare that it doesn't happen.
and that's in life....not just here. i've never had a job where my co workers didn't give me shit once they got to know me, and i didn't give them at least the same back...i say "fuck you" to my friends way more than i do to my enemies...why would i waste a good insult on those assholes?
so, sorry for your loss, sincerely. but, we weren't aware of it......at least i wasn't.
so, ever gonna answer the question of the day?