what do you say/do when.....

Kill her
Haha totally joking

yeah reading your story it seems like shes too insecure to tell you she moved on with another man. you dont want to marry someone like that. on top of that if i were you i would get like 500 bucks and go to a bar and try to score if that doesnt work go to a strip club and you will forget why you went out

i could go to the strip club, but sadly i cant get plastered at a bar for like... 3 weeks? am i really that close to being 21?! shit! im gonna be an alcoholic, i can just tell....

lol dude, your putting that pussy on a pedistal, shes been fucking with you for so long, how does that not put anger in you? shes being a gigantic bitch, and a slut by leading you on, and fucking with you. use the anger to move on.

if she was still fucking around with your head after she left, with a hidden agenda, then she is an immature and evil person. she'll grow up when the guy she with sees her for how she really is, and leaves her. sounds like you've paid the emotion price for too long, if she left you when you needed her the most then she's a bitch, and thats my outlook on it.

im a Buddhist, anger is best left behind, i mean i do get mad, but i try not to ever let anger control my actions

great quote from 40yo virgin btw

look at it this way man...now shes someone elses problem...now someone else has to put up with her bullshit and you can go find someone better, cuz trust me, there is someone better out there

shit kaleo
that really sucks
i really do know wat ur goin through
seein i went through the same thing wen i was 17
but hey thats over now
and im very happy with the woman im with now.

as for austria
i mean if your really head-over-heels for this girl
i say go get er' K!

Pnuggle said:

if she was still fucking around with your head after she left, with a hidden agenda, then she is an immature and evil person. she'll grow up when the guy she with sees her for how she really is, and leaves her. sounds like you've paid the emotion price for too long, if she left you when you needed her the most then she's a bitch, and thats my outlook on it.

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thank you! you seem to know her!

is it my fault that im into evil bitches with hidden agendas who fuck with my head? it seems the only girls ive ever liked turned out being ice queens

fried at 420 said:

shit kaleo
that really sucks
i really do know wat ur goin through
seein i went through the same thing wen i was 17
but hey thats over now
and im very happy with the woman im with now.

as for austria
i mean if your really head-over-heels for this girl
i say go get er' K!

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good to know someones been in my situation, whats your story? if you dont mind sharing

your the only person who thinks i should do that. after all the great input ive been getting, im leaning more towards, fuck her, shes some one elses problem and wouldnt put me through this if she really cared about me

KaleoXxX said:

its been 3 years, 3 years of aim and emails and painful desperation and toying with my mind. i rode a bike across Massachusetts to spend a night with her. ive gotten in fights and gotten my ass kicked defending her, even while shes been gone. this is the ONE person i would give anything for, and im having a hard time coping with the fact that she is giving me up to be with some one else.

i would have no problem standing up for her in the church, its getting to Austria that poses the problem. and i know how many vaginas are out there, but a vagina isnt what i want, its THIS one person that drives me crazy that i want. anyone i meet pales in comparison

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Dude... the chick has made it pretty clear she does not feel the same way, I know what that feels like, trust me, but what would going to Austria and confronting her accomplish? Not a damn thing, and you'll have wasted a shit load of money! You're in a state of emotional infatuation, we've all been there.

Plus, she's been straight up lying to you and essentially (what I would consider) cheated on you, I'd be furious if I were you! (to be honest, if it were me, that'd be enough to break it all off entirely)

Fuck that chick dude, she sounds like a bitch who takes a lot more than she gives in that relationship. What has she ever done for you?

KaleoXxX said:

good to know someones been in my situation, whats your story? if you dont mind sharing

your the only person who thinks i should do that. after all the great input ive been getting, im leaning more towards, fuck her, shes some one elses problem and wouldnt put me through this if she really cared about me

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well as a 90s heartthrob
i had many girl friends
well not all at once lol.

but then there was
"the one that got away"

here goes:
wen i was 16 i met a girl named gabriella
she was so perky
nice fat tits and a complimenting firm ass
we would party all the time n fuck

i actually almost proposed
but then i thought
"im waaaay to young for this shit"

we would have ssooooo much fun 2gether

then..
the move.....

she ended up moving 2 cali
where we were gunna try a long distance relationship
[like they ever work!]...

eventually the love fell apart
she changed her number and screenname
havent heard from her since....

i wished i took the opportunity to move in with her!

but hey i lived with my sick parents
i had to stay for them...

so ends my story of:
"The One That Got Away"

love sucks in the end

PadawanBater said:

Dude... the chick has made it pretty clear she does not feel the same way, I know what that feels like, trust me, but what would going to Austria and confronting her accomplish? Not a damn thing, and you'll have wasted a shit load of money! You're in a state of emotional infatuation, we've all been there.

Plus, she's been straight up lying to you and essentially (what I would consider) cheated on you, I'd be furious if I were you! (to be honest, if it were me, that'd be enough to break it all off entirely)

Fuck that chick dude, she sounds like a bitch who takes a lot more than she gives in that relationship. What has she ever done for you?

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oh you know her too?

ya i know, im probably going to do nothing, i cant afford a 1/8 of weed, how could i afford a trip to austria? the one thing that would come of it is closure, when we broke up it was really rough, think of it like a FIM that never grew 2 tops lol

she has been lying to me, but i dont concider her being with other people after we broke up cheating, i mean she cheated on her next boyfriend the year she was still here with me. i know she was trustworthy when we were together, and with me, but who knows what shes up to now

what has she done for me? well theres lots of answers to that, but the bad things outweigh the good

that song "love stinks", when adam sandler sings it in the wedding singer comes to mind

just go to the club grab the first hot giril you see and kiss her hard you will forget about wanking it to your austrian in no time

Kaleo, just reading this thread it's cool to see the change in tenor in your comments... You're on the way bro. It's amazing what a little venting and support from the community can do. Sadly, it sucks big time while you're going through it, and like others have said we've all been there in one way or another, some of us too many times!! lol... Geez, I been married, and divorced.... Twice!

Hang in there bro, stay with it and as cliche' as this is it does get better with time... (Someone had to say it)

yes support from the community, and people who have been there greatly helps. right now im trying to make plans to go somewhere or do something with friends tonight. ill be taking louis and a few others advice, getting drunk, having a good time, and hell, maybe if it feels right i will just kiss the first good looking girl is see

maybe it will get better in time, i thought 3 years would be enough, but maybe just a little bit more

how long did you date? not that this holds any statistical ground, but "people" say that it can take twice as long as you dated to get over her. IE if you dated for 1½ years it would take 3 years to get over her. i never really found it true until i looked back and applied it. but maybe 3 years is just a decent amount of time to build back what was broken.

haha nah, i don't know your ex, but it seems that we've encountered girls with similar traits. i got a restraining order put on me. the day of my 14 month anniversary, with a picnic basket full of lunch and my mom's car that took hours of begging to borrow. she wanted to grow up blah blah she was changing(she had just become a sophomore in highschool haha) but the restraining order came out of no where. didnt talk to the love of my life, my best friend, for months. knowing she was going out partying, losing me, and not calling. but you know, after months of conceivement.. i had already been lost.

she texted me 3 months later: "YOU GAVE ME CHLAMYDIA YOU MOTHERFUCKER BLAH BLAH"
me: "bitch, i dont have chlamydia you got it from one of your little highschool hook up buddies HAHA!"

evil people will be punished, whether by their own hand or someone elses. question is, are you going to feel bad for her when it happens? or will you have already moved on? the balance is in your hand. its hard to slap the taste of your love and best friend out of your mouth.. but i hope the community here can help!

we dated for over a year, and it was the best year of my life, but now its just a memory. i guess that statistic makes sense

ya i was joking about you knowing her, like you know some one like her

thats mad funny shit right there. she got hers, and hers was chlamydia

i actually can already see it. in another 3 years, shell come back crying about how shes sorry and that her husband left her and bla bla bla. and you know what ill do? slam the door on her face!

maybe it wont happen exactly like that, but it will have the same effect

With women, you shouldn't have to think much. I mean if things are good, you keep her. If things are bad, you get another one. In this situation, it sounds best if you aren't involved. Find some chick on craigslist or something to get your nuts off in the temporary, but definitely move on. I know it's not easy, but it's what you should do. Time to man up.