420God
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How long you been married, how's that going?You gonna let a cop go through your house with that attitude, just because he want's to?
...nothing to hide, nothing to fear, right?!
How long you been married, how's that going?You gonna let a cop go through your house with that attitude, just because he want's to?
...nothing to hide, nothing to fear, right?!
I said if I WANT to. Say I used her phone needed to find the number I dialed earlier and have to go searching through it, she wouldn't object. If she did then it's obvious she has something to hide. I never said that I actively search through my wife's phone. I also never said I don't trust my wife. You fools are taking what I said the wrong way.
Edit: If my wife was having "breakfast dates" with someone, then I would snoop, I have every right to. As does the op.
u dont do nothing to the woman she isnt commited to you it is your man that needs to be dealt withHe cheated on me with her. Just going on "breakfast dates" and kissing/hugging (as of what he tells me). This has been going on for about 3 weeks.
I couldn't disagree more with this. How can you say you trust your wife if you are doing shit like this? If a woman I'm with want's to go through my shit, I tell her "OK, but there goes the trust, have at it..".
You sound like Napolitano "if you have nothing to hide you have nothing to fear" with that bullshit.
I'm trying to understand this - are you responding to your own post?You gonna let a cop go through your house with that attitude, just because he want's to?
...nothing to hide, nothing to fear, right?!
How could you say you trust someone but feel the need to look through their private business? Doesn't that automatically defeat the purpose of trust?How long you been married, how's that going?
Fine. Longest relationship? Unless you've been there you can't understand. Love isn't logical.How could you say you trust someone but feel the need to look through their private business? Doesn't that automatically defeat the purpose of trust?
15 months give or take, and that actually was a huge problem. She felt the same way you do, I didn't. I think there are just some things that should be off limits, privacy is one of them. If she can't trust me without looking through my stuff why is she with me in the first place?Fine. Longest relationship? Unless you've been there you can't understand. Love isn't logical.
15 months give or take, and that actually was a huge problem. She felt the same way you do, I didn't. I think there are just some things that should be off limits, privacy is one of them. If she can't trust me without looking through my stuff why is she with me in the first place?
Why the guise of playing a game on her phone with the intention of looking through her personal information? I know you didn't bring that up, it was someone else, but still. Would you ever ask "honey, can I read your text messages?"? How do you think that would make her feel? How would that make you feel if she asked you that? Like she didn't trust you right? I think it would be a little more than "oh she's just curious, why not...". I don't think it has anything to do with having anything to hide, it's just a matter of boundaries, space. You have to maintain independence even though you may be married and especially if it's only a girlfriend. Just my opinion anyway.Curiosity and trust are different things in a good relationship, maybe it's harder for some people to tell the difference.
He cheated on me with her. Just going on "breakfast dates" and kissing/hugging (as of what he tells me). This has been going on for about 3 weeks.
Its not logical who you love, but it is logical what your willing to put up with,Fine. Longest relationship? Unless you've been there you can't understand. Love isn't logical.
Its not logical who you love, but it is logical what your willing to put up with,
i am right with ya, however never did the long term relationship, just wasn't my style..I agree, I think trust is still a beast of its own. you can have a successful marriage til your death bed loving each other.. has nothing todo whether their was trust or not. Honestly I do not see the logic in Trust, is it not being optimistic for no reason? what's wrong with two efficient calculating nit picking people being together, reassuring themselves when needed. I prefer the latter.
My longest was from 15yo to 22yo. 7 years almost exactly.. almost the most important years too imo :O
IMHO trust is a most critical element of a successful relationship.I agree, I think trust is still a beast of its own. you can have a successful marriage til your death bed loving each other.. has nothing todo whether their was trust or not. Honestly I do not see the logic in Trust, is it not being optimistic for no reason? what's wrong with two efficient calculating nit picking people being together, reassuring themselves when needed. I prefer the latter. My longest was from 15yo to 22yo. 7 years almost exactly.. almost the most important years too imo :O